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In relationship, it's what is said, how it's said, and the energy you hold that defines the nature and vibration of the exchange. Here are my ten love codes for conscious self mastery in communication.

1. Don't fall into lower frequencies when a challenging moment arrives. 2. You feel your vibration lower into fear, frustration. Breath before you speak.

3. Avoid judgement. You don't always know.

4. Don't presume you know - when you haven't inquired and listened.

5. No blame or Shame. Blame and shame are disempowering, often immobilizing, emotions that keep us unconscious and don’t motivate ourselves and our poartner to be better people. Let that go.

6. Avoid matching their frequency if its lower.

7. No Reacting. Listen fully in presence and respond.

8. Know that the lower frequency energy comes from fear or unconscious impulsive energy. Notice it and address it lovingly, in kindness, and compassion.

9. Feel your body. Feel if its heating up or closing down. Open your chest in that moment. Open your heart to them energetically and physically as opposed to retracting or turning down and away.

10. Feel into your higher self. Before you speak ask yourself what is the wisest, most loving, and healthy thing I can offer right now, in word, energy, or action?

ecstasy and orgasm are of the heart

This is what nobody told you about epic orgasm and insane ecstasy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ They are of the heart. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When your heart is closed to yourself or your lover, so is your ability to reach the heights of pleasure and raptured experience into the divine.

Your pussy opens when your heart opens. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Most of our hearts are closed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It takes practice to stay open and to continue opening. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To self. To lover. To life itself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Every woman who has taken my breast massage intensive knows that her sense of sensuality, power, pleasure, desire, and relaxation is from and through her heart.

...And that it takes conscious intent to remove the layers that get stacked on top. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The divine feminine rising is the return (for us all) into the heart. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So... if you you want epic orgasm + insane ecstasy... you need emotional intelligence and the communication skills to get your hearts needs met.

That's what we teach in Quantum Love.

(aka how to stop attracting emotionally abusive men + instead fall in love with the one that ~you know~ is the one) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Here is the thing… 

When you are connected to your pussy, when you can hear her and move with her and pleasure her and love her…  you are re-claiming your power; you are balancing the masculine energies inside of your system that tell you to follow the “relationship rules” and you are releasing the ties to the patriarchal system of do this and that without contacting the heart… and you are returning to your juicy feminine succulence  that is so INTUITIVE and so raw and real and  ALIGNED WITH YOURSELF that you can only magnetize that same level of

> respect > worship + > devotion from a man. ⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you are disconnected from your pussy, you are disconnected from your pleasure  and your pleasure is your COMPASS…  to CREATE the life and love that you want. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you are disconnected from your pussy,  you are disconnected from your power  and your power is your BOUNDARIES…  to STAND BY the life and love that you want. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Heightened sensuality in your body tells you everything you need to know about what is a yes and what is a no… while dating, or in a 1 month to 20 year relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The alignment never ends, the emotional abuse can continue, until you LEARN  to stand IN your powerful pleasured sense of Self.  So… instead of focusing on… •fixing him or •finding the right person or •getting him to change his behaviors if you want the relationship or relationship-to-be to flow…  instead.. focus on your own feminine radiance.. focus on pleasure in your body.. focus on swaying your hips as they are meant to with pleasure and sexy flow. From this space, you are empowered to hear more of the true voice and the true shifts that must happen in your love. Emotionally abusive men are attracted to women who are not fully in their power  because we are mirrors, and wounds attract wounds  and YES not being in your sexual and emotional and feminine and personal power  IS a wound; it is your lack of wholeness within. It doesn’t make abuse RIGHT… it doesn’t give a partner a pass for being an asshole.. but it does put you into the DRIVER SEAT and remind you that its all your work.. and that your work is inside of yourself… and that it is your personal power and connection to yourself that can take the emotional abuse out of the man. You won’t need to ask if “he’s the right one for me”  when he comes along,  at some point on the journey and with this person, let all of that go,  and feel. Connect to the part of you, the feminine spirit  that already knows… and trust.
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