He nudges me in to my higher self when I don’t even know I’ve left.
In previous relationships I would have said- “All you want to do is CHANGE me! Why can’t you just enjoy me for who I am right now?”
But I’ve grown to realize that I don’t want complacency.
I don’t want my lover to see me in a lower energy and not do or say anything about it.
Then, how will I grow?
Every time he points me in a direction of my higher self I ask myself these questions-
“Is that in harmony with my truth?"
"Is that in integrity with my higher self?"
"Is he seeing something that I WANT to become?”
The answer is always yes, but if it isn’t... that’s where free will and boundaries come into play. Bam.
I also used to see MAJOR places in which I desired to be different in him.
I could see where he wasn’t stepping in to his power, his voice, his masculinity... and I kept saying to him... “But I feel bad asking for these things... I don’t want to change you!”
He looked at me with all of his presence- “Ashae... you have to understand that everything you want for me, I want for myself too.”
That is the key with these desires and holding space for our partners to continually meet their higher embodiment of self.