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Updated: Jun 12, 2018

In order for you to flower open vulnerably in relationship and give to your lover all that you can be, you need to feel penetrated by your lovers love.

I’m sure you’ve felt the internal desire to be MORE for your partner: more loving, more compassionate, more giving, more sensual, more carefree, more open. Yes?

However, something… you can’t quite pinpoint it… holds you back from being the lover you know you were made to be.

That something keeping you closed off to receiving and giving the wellspring of your love?

Your feminine needs are not being met.

Now- this article is most definitely not about pointing the finger at men… to go… “See! You aren’t giving me that! It’s all your fault!”

The truth is, it is YOU that doesn’t know (yet) how to get your desires met.

Your partner only knows and gives what they have been programmed to know and give.

Don’t shame or blame them for how they are.

Inspire and hold space for who they are becoming.

(PS: Who they are becoming is for you AND for them. And a good man will know that, too.)

Your partner only knows to give you what they were taught to give the feminine… however you… you have boundaries. You have a yes and a no. You have pussy guidance. And heart knowings.

You have a positive tone of voice, or not.

You have everything you need to get what you want from relationship.

How you TREAT YOURSELF, how you ARE in your body, what you THINK, what you ASK FOR, HOW you ask for it, and how you INSPIRE a man determines whether or not these vital feminine needs will be met.

Want to learn how to effortlessly inspire him to give it all to you?

We made a free PDF workbook guide that will teach you how to get all of your feminine needs met in relationship.

Download our free guide, here. How to get your Feminine Needs Met in Relationship.

Remember: the reason you close down and are not receptive to his love is because on some level, your needs are not being met.

(You also have genetic and learned programs, but we save the unpacking of that for the brave souls who join our course.)

So, what are the major feminine needs in relationship?


It doesn’t matter if you are frolicking in a field of flowers, madly throwing dishes all over the home, screaming, crying, orgasming, or spending a week with your girls.

You want to feel his unconditional love penetrating through to you.

You want to feel that he's unaffected, in his heart, by whatever is coming through you.

You could feel angry or sad or resentful. He’s still there… blasting you open to God.

You want to feel that when you’re in an angry fit… he’s unafraid to pin you to the wall with love… arms over your head… ready to kiss you into oblivion.

But did you know that in the past, you’ve used your mood to manipulate?

Did you know that when you reject his penetration, you teach him to stop… and that you secretly and subconsciously block him from giving?

Download this guide to learn how to request, inspire, and receive his unconditional love.


If you spend two weeks upset and you detect that your lover notices nothing… you start closing off.

If you spend time getting ready for a special evening and he doesn’t even tell or show you how beautiful you are… all hell can break loose.

If you start crying and he runs away scared or creates conflict to try and figure you out… its a no go.

You want to feel seen in your beauty, in your mess, in your emotional states, in your sexuality, in your rage, in your humor, in your fun.

You simply want to be seen for the chaotic ocean of glorious madness that you are.

Again: he might not know HOW to fully see you due to his programming around love and relationship.

Download our free guide to learn how you can inspire him and teach him to see you in your fullness.


As a woman, you have an inherent gift to nurture and to heal. You can see. You can give from the wellspring of wisdom inside of your womb.

You want your beloved to be able to get vulnerable… tell you their feelings… and relax into the gift of your intuitive self.

How would it feel if your partner said to you…

“My love… What do you feel about my block with money? It’s really affecting my mood these days. What can you see that I can’t see? Help guide me.”


Most men were taught to hide their feelings AND they’ve experienced the over-bearing woman that demands instead of invites an energetic shift. So, be easy on them.

Download this guide to learn how to be and speak in a way that inspires your man to receive your wisdom and intuition.


You want to feel like he’s got your back.

You want to know that no matter what, he won’t get scared and run away.

You want to be able to relax as he chooses the dinner plans and vacation plans and date nights.

Not because you can’t or because you’re not fine or safe on your own.

Because your feminine essence desires to be led and met with the consciousness of the masculine heart.

Most women don’t know this but they do one VERY SPECIFIC thing that repels the need of safety.

Find out what it is, here.


Feeling like the radiant goddess of sensual delight inspires you to be all that you can be in the world.

Enough said.

Click here to learn what you can do to get his flags raised for this one. No pun intended ;)


He can worship your body like art- with each glance, each stroke, each featherlight touch. He can remember that your sacred temple needs more than just sexual touch and desires loving touch too.

He can make love to you so good that your hormones reorganize and your DNA aligns to nothing but beauty and love.

He can verbally tell you how much he sees your radiance.

But, if you don’t cultivate your OWN inner radiance… he’ll stop seeing it too.

Learn how to cultivate your own inner radiance with this guide.


You go out of your way for your partner. You transform a habit or belief keeping the relationship small. You do something nice for him. You emit love light like the radiant goddess you are.

The feminine in you responds really well when he tells you how much he appreciates you. How much he cherishes you. How much gratitude he has for you in his life.

If you start feeling like you are being taken for granted… you will close off even more. You will likely withhold sex and pleasure and fun and love.

How to inspire your man to appreciate you even more than he shows now?

In this download, we give you the perfect inviting way to ask.

Try to read this whole article within context of this: they are not needs to the extent that without them... you are not whole.

The first need is the need for you to give all of the above to YOURSELF.

You are whole on your own. Powerful on your own. You can feel beautiful, loved, desired, carefree, and happy on your own. 100%

AND - you choose to be in relationship because your partner can reflect and magnify how you feel about yourself.

Cultivating your own inner wholeness - your own self love, self care, self appreciation, self worship, self pleasure- inspires your man to mirror the same back to you.

Over anything, remember: your desires are your superpowers.

Do not deny them.

And most certainly do not wait for a man to have perfectly mastered giving them all to you.

Learn instead how to emanate in a way that magnetizes your desires to you.

They are sacred.

They are your roadmaps.

They create you as Queen and him as King.

Download our guide to make sure you know exactly how to get your needs met.

Ultimately, when a woman's needs are met- she can fully surrender into the direction, devotion, and trust of her partner. When a man feels like his woman is devotionally surrendered and trusting of him, he can give her the world. One feeds the other continually... giving and receiving in infinite ways.

Hope this one served you... a lot of juiciness in here ;-)

And if you’re ready to let go of the old programming, rules, and false model for relationships… (and I mean you’re really ready because we go deep) ... and if you're ready to become the lover you know you have inside... we invite you to apply for Quantum Love.

Jane doesn't clean the dishes.

It triggers John.

He tells himself, "I'm not in the relationship I want."

After that, he conjures the possibilities of his life without Jane.

(Even though they have plans for kids, marriage, and a trip to Greece and he knows deep down he wants this relationship to thrive.)

This is what we like to call... Confusing Your Relationship Timeline.

Thinking about other scenarios in your relationship that are not aligned to togetherness and union leads to separation and confusion.

I have to admit, I'm a master at this and I have to monitor myself like WOAH to stop.

Recently, Lucien and I had one of those tougher days and I witnessed my mind going... "Well... I could go to Bali... and I am fine on my own... and maybe this isn't right for me if I'm not getting what I want..."


Called myself out as fast as I could.

No no no no no no no.

That is NOT what I want-- why create a possibility for The Universe to give me that?!

We have to be really careful about these subtle thought forms... because they are flying into the Quantum Field and creating as we speak.

Patience and humility, brothers and sisters.

Our desires in relationship are important... incredibly so... yet we (especially as women) can tend to have an entitled way of going about them.

Instead... we can...

1. Honor our desires as truth

2. Give ourselves and the relationship what we want

3. Lead certain energies and practices that get us what we want

4. Communicate through inquiry and ask for what we want.. (most people don't even know how to access this step)

5. Create an inviting opportunity and container for our partner to meet us with what we want.

Other option- blame the other for not knowing, not giving, and not supporting... create other timelines about being with another person because CLEARLY your needs aren't being met in the current relationship... and then.... what?? Likely from there you argue with your partner about it and STILL you don't get met... so MORE timelines are created in your mind.

NO THANK YOU to that option.

Conditional commitment = half-heartedness.

Half heartedness creates other avenues for The Universe to slip in.

This means that the relationship creation and power you have as a union is diminished greatly.

Two people manifesting one vision together is like dynamite unicorn rainbow rocket ships... happening like lightning speed.

Unconditional commitment = devotion.

That devotion has the ability to create anything you wish.

So.... dive in to this weeks video to get the full download about timeline creation and then let us know if you do this or if you believe your partner does this in the comments below.


And then when you're ready to take your relationship to the NEXT LEVEL... apply for Quantum Love.

We're enrolling for July's course and it fills fast.

In relationship, it's what is said, how it's said, and the energy you hold that defines the nature and vibration of the exchange. Here are my ten love codes for conscious self mastery in communication.

1. Don't fall into lower frequencies when a challenging moment arrives. 2. You feel your vibration lower into fear, frustration. Breath before you speak.

3. Avoid judgement. You don't always know.

4. Don't presume you know - when you haven't inquired and listened.

5. No blame or Shame. Blame and shame are disempowering, often immobilizing, emotions that keep us unconscious and don’t motivate ourselves and our poartner to be better people. Let that go.

6. Avoid matching their frequency if its lower.

7. No Reacting. Listen fully in presence and respond.

8. Know that the lower frequency energy comes from fear or unconscious impulsive energy. Notice it and address it lovingly, in kindness, and compassion.

9. Feel your body. Feel if its heating up or closing down. Open your chest in that moment. Open your heart to them energetically and physically as opposed to retracting or turning down and away.

10. Feel into your higher self. Before you speak ask yourself what is the wisest, most loving, and healthy thing I can offer right now, in word, energy, or action?

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